I will be more likely to leave a man who beats me."Yet ignorance still exists. Paul, Minn., a domestic-violence prevention advocate, held a town meeting in an affluent suburb of the Twin Cities. "They did not want to believe this was happening in their community."Increasingly, reaching out to young men ranks as an important part of prevention efforts.Four high school girls explained how they were regularly beaten by their very popular boyfriends. Robert Gallup, executive director of Amend in Denver, notes that 30 percent of adult domestic violence behavior started in adolescence.
' I tell them, just be there for your kids and say, 'I don't know what's going on, but you can always come to me and talk about it.' It's very important for parents to say, 'We can get through this.'"A Nike TV ad promoting athletics for girls includes the lines, "If you let me play sports, I will know what it means to be strong....
"Women are supposed to be beautiful, submissive, and basically there to please men.
Those stereotypes essentially support the notion that men are entitled to control women."Compounding the problem, counselors say, are teen magazines that emphasize the importance of boyfriends, as well as sexually degrading rap lyrics that objectify women's bodies."In high school particularly, the message is that you're nobody if you don't have a boyfriend," says Fannie Gilarde, a community coordinator for Dove, a battered women's shelter in Quincy, Mass.
Standing on a makeshift stage, a teenage boy and girl are discussing a party.
The girl wants to attend, but her jealous boyfriend tells her she can't. Then he grabs her, slaps her, and knocks her to the floor, saying, "Look what you made me do.He also involves parents in another retreat dealing with teen issues, including dating violence.