In biblical times, the process of meeting a spouse had very little to do with compatibility and personality traits, and everything to do with family lineage and economic status.Finding a mate functioned a lot more like a bartering system than dinner and a movie.Type the word “dating” into your Bible search tool and what comes up? When I was single, I remember wishing there was an entire book—or even just a chapter—of the Bible dedicated to the topic of dating.But though the Scriptures are filled with foundational life-changing truths, there are plenty of topics the Bible doesn’t specifically speak to.In most aspects of modern life, God doesn’t provide cookie-cutter answers or formulas.But be encouraged, though He may not always provide us with the direct plan, He always gives us everything we need to get where He wants us to go. This issue shapes our young people, friends, and family more than we could ever imagine. “Let’s just sit back and see what happens” might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn’t one of them. I hope and pray these words spark conversations in your ministries, relationships, and homes. If you need to take a minute to let that sink in, I will be here when you get back… Here’s the deal: marriage isn’t a divine lottery where every person has one winning ticket. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse.” Not a good idea. So, the default for years is to leave as soon as a flaw arises. This requires discipline, restraint, and abstinence from activities that don’t promote holiness. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. ____________________ I hope this discussion continues. I pray parents, church leaders, friends, and family begin to spark conversations about God’s design for dating.
That would be awesome, but it’s not always realistic. If you are a Christian, God isn’t a piece of your pie. Why date someone who doesn’t even have God as a piece of the pie? Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient, or settling. Date a Healthy Person God’s Word reminds us of the importance of connecting with people who are in line with our spiritual life (2 Corinthians , 1 Corinthians ).The truth about relationships is that the healthier both individuals are emotionally and spiritually, the healthier the relationship will be.Though the Bible doesn’t talk directly about dating, it does speak volumes about relationships, godly interactions and principles that can be applied to how you date.
1 Corinthians reminds us that no matter what it is we’re doing; it can be used as a means to glorify God. I am fearful the Christian community has irresponsibly coerced men and women into marriage through cultural pressure.