After four years of college in Massachusetts, I spent a mostly single half-decade in Manhattan dating people from every borough -- but it wasn't until I moved 350 miles away to the absolute middle of nowhere that I found a dating culture richer, more fun, and far more enjoyable than anything Manhattan had to offer.Redwood is a 600-person hamlet along a tiny speck of road 10 miles from the Canadian border in rural New York.
Without anonymity, you know the reputation, dating history, and most likely the sexual health of all your prospects. In some ways, that helps narrow the field to people you know are reasonably good matches while weeding out those you'd want to escape from five minutes into a date.
Here, people still go out for dinner on their dates.
Other popular romantic outings include four-wheeling, kayaking, hiking, mudding (don't admit it if you don't know what that is), sledding (known to city types as "snowmobiling"), drive-in movie theaters, and boating around one of the lakes or rivers for the day.
I'd bartend while people told stories (not all true) about whomever I was seeing. Spend five minutes perusing Tinder in Redwood and you'll find your neighbor, a handful of your friends, the guy who painted your house, and six people you played pool with at the bar last night.
You change your location settings -- 30, 40, 50 miles away -- and still, you recognize these people.With exes, there will always be weirdness to overcome.