” Try to redirect his energy in a positive way that encourages him to keep working for you.As long as he’s working for you, you’re still in control. Also, when he does text you first, should you wait a while to text him back so he doesn’t think you’re just waiting around for him?And, as I wrote a few weeks ago, we love it when girls take initiative.What you don’t want to do is sound like a stick-in-the-mud, my-way-or-the-highway woman.But you can refuse to play his game and still make him feel attractive, which will keep him chasing you through whatever medium you choose. Now now, don’t hate on men – I’m a single guy who is dating, and women I meet text me all the time. It drove me crazy for some of the reasons you talked about – a 5 minute phone call is so much nicer, more respectful, more intimate. It’s how Gen-Y communicates (I’m older than Gen-Y.) I finally decided to stop resisting it, and it doesn’t bother me anymore.
As to how you redirect a lazy man to give you more effort, the trick is to do it with wit and charm.
You send a text when you don’t want to talk to someone, but you want to let them know you’re thinking of them.